Meeting time and location
The group meets every Sunday throughout the year from 5:00 to 6:30 PM, and we mean every Sunday: Derby weekend, Christmas Eve, High Holidays, 4th of July. The only exception is New Year's Eve, when the church building is closed. There is no charge for the group, although a voluntary collection is taken to help with childcare, workshops, and other expenses. Participants may join the group at any time -- walk-ins are welcome -- and childcare is provided at no charge.
The group meets on the second floor of the education wing of Crescent Hill Baptist Church, which is located at 2800 Frankfort Avenue at the corner of Birchwood Avenue -- click for map.
In a nutshell
The purpose of the group is for people experiencing separation or divorce to provide each other with emotional support, practical advice, and a sense of community. While our conversations are often healing and therapeutic, these are peer-led self-help meetings and should not be confused with therapy with a trained counselor. No subject is off limits in the support group, but some issues may come up that a facilitator might suggest be addressed with a therapist or in a therapy setting. We hope that you will find in the support group a place to safely express your feelings, to experience personal growth, and to experiment with new ways of relating to others.
We welcome people regardless of religious affiliation, race, nationality, age, gender, gender identity, sexual orientation, or role in the divorce. Although generously sponsored by a Baptist congregation, Divorce Recovery Louisville welcomes all people without regard to their religious faith, if any. We address matters of faith when a member raises the topic as part his or her own personal situation, but do not follow a faith-based approach to divorce recovery or espouse any religious creed. Our facilitators are as likely to be Catholic, Jewish, or agnostic as Baptist - not that you'd ever know.
The whole group meets briefly for announcements, then divides into assigned groups of 6-10 participants and two facilitators, one male and one female whenever possible, who are themselves alumni of the support group. At the start of each small group session, you will be asked to share your name, the status of your divorce or separation, what kind of emotional week you have had, and whether or not you need to claim time to work on your issues with the group. In order that everyone has adequate time, we try to accomplish individual work within a 15-20 minute time period.
Members of each group commit to attend for a 16-week period, and are expected to make attendance a priority -- participating in group isn't just something to do when nothing else is available. If a member is to be absent, she or he agrees to contact another member of the group or a facilitator who will be present. The reason for this commitment is that this is a support group; other people may be concerned for you, and other members might have come to share a problem with you and want your support.
Any subject or feeling may be expressed in group, but should not be mentioned outside of the group to anyone, including the individual who expressed it, if there is any possibility of breaching the confidentiality we share in group. (Group leaders will, however, act responsibly if information provided indicates that follow-up is necessary.)
Dating within the group
The group is not a dating service -- think of it as an undating service, where you learn to live comfortably with yourself before you even think about living with someone else again. The group's strong recommendation is that you avoid dating within your small group, because experience has shown that it will interfere with your recovery from divorce -- you will be hesitant to discuss previous relationships in the presence of someone you are currently dating. If you do date within your small group, you must be willing to have that relationship discussed within the group.
Using the group to best advantage
Work often... even if you feel you have nothing to bring up. Claim time at least once a month to talk about what is going on in your life, and how you feel about it. If you have nothing on which to work, the group will help by asking questions. Remember that you do not need a crisis to work; sometimes the most important work can be done on the routine things that are occurring in your life. When you are in divorce, almost every issue becomes a divorce issue -- stress at work, relating to your children, financial changes -- and the input of the others in your group can help you keep them in perspective and find solutions, especially when you can no longer depend on a spouse for support.